Relationships are a tricky subject for most of us. We think we know how it works and we seem to plan everything so promptly to back us up for the occasion of the right one stepping into the picture.
When you’re in a long relationship, there is a danger of one of you getting numb. By getting numb I mean the moment when you take the other for granted and you can’t see the other’s great sides so easily anymore. There is even a saying that you don’t know what you have before you actually lose it. This means that it is sometimes difficult to appreciate what you have when you have it and so you take it for granted. Most of the relationships are on a healthy base though. This is mostly because couples get together for the right reasons. You don’t settle for the first one to show up at your door but keep believing that there is ‘the one’ for you.
I had a divorce recently and I tried to analyze the reasons that led us to the point of not enjoying each other’s company or not noting other’s feelings anymore. I really don’t know at which point it happened but I noticed it.
I got over my divorce by building (in Finnish: rakentaminen) a new house for myself. We sold our old apartment, split the money and I went off to build my own house which I had dream of for a while already. It took me a while but it was worth every second and day. Rautia was my new lover where I found all the tools and materials to make my dream come true. Everyone have their ways of coping with issues. Mine was burying it somewhere between the house and the concrete.
When it just doesn’t work out